Tuesday, October 02, 2018

There Is a Giant Hole Where My Heart Used To Be

With profound grief, I announce that Sandra’s journey has come to an end.



Gardens at Government House, Victoria BC (June 2017)


Sandra Dawson was taken from this earth by the indiscriminate brutality of metastatic cancer. She died on October 2, 2018 at the age of 51. This horrific experience was not a “fight.” She did NOT lose a battle against the unchecked proliferation of malignant cells. Instead, Sandra saw the final phase of her life a journey. She was incredibly brave while facing the ravages of this terrible disease, and she was ultimately accepting of her fate. She was gracious and generous in sharing the final stages of her journey with friends and family, and also with nearly 25,000 followers of her @unsuicide Twitter account.1 There was an outpouring of love and support and visitors and flowers, which buoyed her spirits and made her feel loved.

She really loved flowers.




Sandra was many things – a writer, a blogger, a jewelry designer, a crochet artist, a mental health advocate, a board member of the Mental Health Commission of Canada, and the 2016 winner of a Sovereign's Medal for Volunteers from The Governor General of Canada, for over a decade of work in suicide prevention.



Government House, Victoria BC (June 2017)



September 10 was World Suicide Prevention Day, and Dr. Erin Michalak of CREST.BD wrote a touching tribute to Sandra’s work.

Sandra Dawson’s Legacy

. . .

“Most significantly, Sandra created the Unsuicide directory of online and mobile crisis supports, as well as a popular corresponding Twitter feed (@Unsuicide) with close to 25,000 followers. Her Unsuicide online supports are authentically grounded in her lived experience of bipolar disorder, but also unfailingly focused on helping people, regardless of their geography, to access credible and safe online and mobile support tools. In 2016, she was awarded the Sovereign’s Medal for Volunteers from the Governor General of Canada in acknowledgement of the impact of her work as an advocate for people facing mental health challenges and in suicide prevention.”

But mostly I think of her as a writer.



Radar Queer Reading Series, SF Public Library (October 2016)


She was also my partner and wife of nearly 12 years.


December 2017


We met in 2006 through our respective blogs, The Neurocritic and Neurofuture. The neuroblogging community was quite small then. Neurofuture started in January 2006 a blog about Brain Science and Neurofuturism that was ahead of its time (so to speak):
The future is now, in many ways. Neuroscience and psychiatry are fields that have experienced tremendous growth, especially in the last few decades, and these advances already have practical applications. … At the same time, much is still unknown…
. . .

Neuroscience, psychiatry, neuroethics and transhumanism are the four areas of focus for this blog. They have applications in a broad range of fields, and I'll be aggregating diverse information. Expect a lot of interesting links. I invite your comments.

In June 2006, she started a video blog, Channel N, that shared interesting content related to neuroscience, psychology, and mental health. Channel N eventually moved to Psych Central, a trusted mega-site for mental health, depression, bipolar, ADHD & psychology information. Sandra also wrote posts for World of Psychology, the main PsychCentral blog, including many Top 10 lists, which were always popular.

Along with Steve Higgins, she blogged for Omni Brain (from December 2006 – January 2008), which was “an exploration of the serious, fun, ridiculous / past, present, future of the brain and the science that loves it” – as part of the long-defunct Science Blogs network.


But Sandra’s real love was writing fiction (mostly under the pseudonym S. Kay). She wrote an unpublished novel (or two), flash fiction, and a novella that was published by Maudlin House (ironically titled Joy).





The advent of Twitter really changed her writing. She started writing microfiction, ultra-short stories in the form of Tweets (140 characters or less). Sometime they were standalone zaps that told an entire tiny tale.





Other times, she crafted a number of tweets together to tell a longer story. These were published in various venues and included pieces such as Neurotech Light and DarkCloud Glitches, Facebook Algorithm of Death,2 and her final piece, Goth Robots (robots were always a favorite theme; see the interview Weird words with S. Kay). Her blueberrio tumblr has a comprehensive list of her published work.




Her masterwork was Reliant, “an apocalypse in tweets” published in 2015 by the late tNY Press (but still available for purchase at Amazon):
“Selfies, sexbots, and drones collide in these interwoven nanofictions about a society before, during, and after its collapse. With dazzling humor and insight, debut author S. Kay reveals a future that looks disconcertingly like the present. Beautifully illustrated by Thoka Maer, Reliant is a bold examination of society's unrequited love for technology.”
There was a nice review in Entropy by Christopher Iacono.




But my proudest literary-moment-by-proxy was when Sandra read at Writers With Drinks, a long-standing, monthly series of readings by spectacular writers, held in a bar and hosted by the talented and amusing Charlie Jane Anders. It was a fun evening and the ideal crowd for reading Reliant.



Writers With Drinks (Nov. 14, 2015)


Sandra's next book, Lost in the Land of Bears (designed and published by Reality Hands), had a truly unique limited edition faux fur cover, but it's still available as an e-book.


James Knight wrote a great review at Sabotage Reviews.


Sandra was an early adopter of all forms of online communication. She was an avid blogger, social media user, and before that an online diarist. She was prescient about the future of social media:
I have no optimism that social media will bring the world together with mutual empathy improving society. Sheep are still sheep and their bleatings still need shepherds to make them a coherent flock. An important lesson for the next decade. The media is still the media and if anything, is more segregated than ever.

Sandra Dawson, January 4, 2007


I could go on and on about her other wildly creative projects, like her Spambot Psychosis origami text cube, her beachpunk jewelry, her minibook necklaces (sample here), her upcycled cashmere brooches, her Postcards from the Post-Apocalypse, and her exhibit of crocheted art hats (and bonus EEG cap) at Femina Potens (the Cultivating Cozy exhibition).



January 18th, 2008



But what I can't express in words right now is how much I'll miss her.






Footnotes

1 Like me, she had many Twitter accounts and blogs and pseudonyms; the latter included Sandra K, Sandra Kiume, and S. Kay.

2 Sadly, this was based on a true story that had an even more tragic ending.




I love you.
RIP.

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10 Comments:

At October 02, 2018 3:27 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Truly a huge loss. What a wonderful tribute, though it likely does not fill the hole. No doubt you honour her through your own journey from this point forward.

 
At October 02, 2018 4:19 PM, Blogger Janelle said...

My deepest sympathies for your great loss. This was a wonderful blog post telling us all about her.

In my times of grief, I like to remember this quote, "But know this; the ones that love us never really leave us. You can find them in here ❤️ "

 
At October 02, 2018 6:30 PM, Blogger Unknown said...

A beautiful life and a beautiful testimony.

I am sorry for your loss, she will live on in the collective memory.

 
At October 02, 2018 7:19 PM, Anonymous Christy said...

So sorry to hear of Sandra's passing. She was an incredible creative force and a virtual friend to be reckoned with. xo

 
At October 02, 2018 9:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I’m honored to have known Sandra for the past six years, even if only as a virtual friend. She was a true warrior and guiding light. Her legacy lives on through her profound work, unique writing, creative endeavors, and this moving tribute. May you find solace in knowing that she never failed to express her deep love and appreciation for you every step of the way.

 
At October 03, 2018 5:06 AM, Blogger wolfmansmummy said...

She had a tremendous impact on just- well, everyone, huh? I will miss her. We were "etsy mob" buddies, a bond that can not really be explained, as my daughters keep insisting. Love to you, Diane. I am so happy to have known and loved your Sandra.

 
At October 03, 2018 9:06 AM, Blogger scicurious said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. What an amazing person. Thinking of you.

 
At October 03, 2018 2:36 PM, Blogger Angela Ronson said...

Throw yourself into your work. You'll need something n this is a good area to be in. Now I know this is public, so many others will see my advice. We know from physics that energy does not end. This is an important fact. Now start looking into quantum physics. Death may actually be a transformation. Dimensions then get confusing to me. I am in a coma. Get real! Some sort of transformation of energy is going on.

 
At October 04, 2018 12:46 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

May you be blessed and comforted each day as you strive to be strong. She was (and is I believe) still with us. To have lived in so many hearts, how could it be otherwise?

 
At November 16, 2018 7:39 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Stunned. I met Sandra via Twitter. She was running an account linked to Panorama Park. I lived up the hill from the Cove and enjoyed reading her poetic posts on a favorite part of my neighborhood. I liked a few of her tweets, then she liked a few of mine. Somehow we connected and realized we where practically neighbours. We met a few times at her home over looking the Cove for coffee. She was one of the most interesting and accomplished women I have ever met. I was aware of but a sliver of her accomplishments at the time, specifically related to her mental health work and her strong creative flair.It was around the time of our friendship she was also preparing to marry her love. I remember being happy and excited for them both. I moved away from the Cove in 2015 and we lost touch. Randomly today I hear the news of her passing. Rest in peace Sandra. Thank you for all the research and support you put out in the world to help others.

 

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