tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post116561673339374284..comments2024-03-29T05:19:17.638-07:00Comments on The Neurocritic: I Can't Feel Anything...The Neurocritichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08010555869208208621noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-9366672075268353302017-12-09T21:06:07.299-08:002017-12-09T21:06:07.299-08:00I believe my ex-boyfriend had alexithymia. I just ...I believe my ex-boyfriend had alexithymia. I just broke up with him, and his response was, "ok, what ever you want to do." I cried, and he wanted to discuss the weather. I immediately googled "lack of emotions" and read all about this condition, and he is pretty much a text book case.<br /><br />In hindsight, I don't recall him ever describing anything with emotional emphasis, eg. "I am excited about my car." or "I am so angry about work." or "I am afraid to confront my sister." He never expressed "having fun" with is family/friends. All his talks were of factual information. He was a nice man, otherwise, over the year and a half we dated.<br /><br />This is extremely hard to deal with as a partner because you tend to take the lack of action and words personally and assume you are not loved or wanted. Even when I expressed my concerns about his ability to convey his desire to keep our relationship going, he was unable to change. It, quite frankly, seemed like he had no desire to make me happy.<br /><br />I will never know if he had this condition. I feel bad for him, really.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-7433245968824863912011-12-17T19:15:44.789-08:002011-12-17T19:15:44.789-08:00Ive done a lot of research...there is primary and ...Ive done a lot of research...there is primary and secondary...primary meaning the way you were raised when it mattered, in the early years, and secondary meaning it derived from some sort of physical or emotional trauma...those that were not shown emotions in their early years, say from birth to 3ish, tended to continue to allow their brains to rewire and less and less emotion is required and/or felt throughout life...this would be me...if the neglect continues throughout childhood, u cannot change nor treat it...but if you suffered trauma, counseling may help because your brain was once wired to give and receive emotion...that is what i get from all of my reading...if someone has more, please enlighten me...im 42 and would love to fall in love while i still can...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-26275786608249722262011-10-16T23:18:03.907-07:002011-10-16T23:18:03.907-07:00i think i am suffering from this Alexi-something. ...i think i am suffering from this Alexi-something. ive been through traumas and i think this is it..could it be?<br />does that mean im a monster?<br />i konw i love people..i do. i dont how to show it.. but sometimes its very difficult to keep hold of someone..not feeling emotion does things to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-43445470727231001822011-07-28T20:45:58.546-07:002011-07-28T20:45:58.546-07:00i believe that I may have this particular problem....i believe that I may have this particular problem. Relationships are really difficult not being able to tell if the person you are with needs a cuddle or a kiss, I can not feel much emotion in regards to love, I know I love that person, but I am unable to show it at all.<br />Is it my upbringing, or was i born this way? I have parents that were both incapable of showing any signs of love or verbal support and therfore I have been feeling alone most of my life, i hate feeling like this. Is there any treatment that you know of? I feel like my relationship is on the verge of collapse if something isnt done soon. I also have a daughter that is in the middle of all this, and I am feeling like I am playing at being a mother rather than feeling it. i know I love them both, but I need someone to help me feel.<br />i have tried making appointments with people, but it is so difficult getting in when you need to see someone. please any information on treatment would be great. much concern.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-44534439207656653162011-06-04T12:56:39.123-07:002011-06-04T12:56:39.123-07:00There is a newer study like this that uses the Sin...There is a newer study like this that uses the Singer paradigm. <br />http://brain.oxfordjournals.org/content/133/5/1515.longAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-31304432101676685192008-01-20T10:40:00.000-08:002008-01-20T10:40:00.000-08:00I have only a rough understanding of neurology so ...I have only a rough understanding of neurology so It's very likely I'm missing something. But, I'm not sure if I follow the logic. How are they able to make comparisons between an Alex's empathetic response and the response that an Alex would have if they themselves were cutting their finger or stubbing their toe.<BR/>Has there been other research that correlates a normal pain scale to alexithymia. It seems that emotion and pain are connected, surely there is emotional pain which can manifest physically. So an alexithymic individual who has an inability to consciously process emotions might also be only registering the physical response of pain and not the emotional one. It might very well be that the alex's are reporting what their own response would be. So I guess what my argument comes down to is what kind of empathy are they talking about. Is it a relative or absolute empathy. My understanding of empathy is that it is one responding to another persons situation in the same way if the situation was happening to the one's self. But it seems here they are defining empathy as responding in the same manner as the affected individual not as if it were affecting the person in question.<BR/> <BR/>I hope the pronouns didn't get too mixed up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-54266265400717645972007-12-01T01:03:00.000-08:002007-12-01T01:03:00.000-08:00People with Asperger are also said to lack empathy...People with Asperger are also said to lack empathy. Recently there has been argued, that they show lower cognitive empathy, normal affective empathy, and more personal distress. (Rogers at al. 2006). How does it apply to alexithymia? There is also a debate about significant overlap with Asperger's.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-1166996662883821142006-12-24T13:44:00.000-08:002006-12-24T13:44:00.000-08:00Alexithimia isn't quite like a drug-induced numb s...Alexithimia isn't quite like a drug-induced numb state...<BR/><BR/><I>Hello.<BR/>Is there anybody in there?<BR/>Just nod if you can hear me.<BR/>Is there anyone home?</I><BR/><BR/>Pink Floyd › <A HREF="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/p/pink+floyd/comfortably+numb_20108779.html" REL="nofollow">Comfortably Numb</A><BR/><BR/>An inability to communicate emotions may not present a problem to the affected individual, but it would present quite a problem in communicating with friends and family.<BR/><BR/>Plus this from <A HREF="http://richardgpettymd.blogs.com/my_weblog/2006/11/alexithymia.html" REL="nofollow">Dr. Petty</A>:<BR/><BR/><I>Alexithymia can have some serious consequences. Apart from making relationships very difficult, it is more common in people who have near-fatal asthma attacks or have poor diabetic control. People with a history of alcohol abuse who have alexithymia are more likely to relapse. Alexithymia may predispose people to developing the insulin resistance syndrome.</I>The Neurocritichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08010555869208208621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21605329.post-1166950837414240302006-12-24T01:00:00.000-08:002006-12-24T01:00:00.000-08:00Just give them all a lobotomy.JOKE.But seriously, ...Just give them all a lobotomy.JOKE.<BR/>But seriously, who decided that alex thing is an illness needing to be treated?<BR/>pink floyds song "confortably numb" is a popular song, I wonder how abnormal the syndrom is.Mark p.s.2https://www.blogger.com/profile/10529811159862096782noreply@blogger.com